Do or not? / Wednesday, October 11, 2006
Yeah, it's blogging time again. Working in Red Box Events seems to be getting better and better. I think I have started to develop interest in doing event stuffs. Cheers. Had quite a number of meetings with my boss and my colleague (that dumbass). Most of the time, we will drift to other non-event related topics. :) It is really funny and enjoyable to chat with them. The victim will always be Kenneth as he has different frequency as us.
A few days ago, we have chatted a relatively interesting topic. The topic is about a man carrying a lady's handbag. I bet most of us had seen or even experience such a situation. My boss think that if a lady wants a man to carry her handbag for her, it is a kind of embarrasement to the man. Just imagine a man carrying a lady's handbag. Haha. It might seems to be very normal but come on, man should act like a man. When a grown up man carrying a lady's handbag, haha, should I call him a 'gentleman' or a 'gentle man'. It looks so uncomfortable.
Why ladies will request the male partner to carry bag for her? The most basic answer would be that she is tired. Haha. Then my boss told us that if the lady give such a excuse, the guy will have to reply by asking "If you are tired, why do you still want to come out?". It may sounds abit ungentleman but please, get the fact right into the head. If you want the guy to respect you, you must also respect him. Just imagine: When your boyfriend carrying a girly handbag for you, the passerby will think that he is a sissy or pussyboy. You will never know what others are thinking.
Another topic will be the "Gentleman". This word always comes out from the mouth of young teenage girls. How do you rate a gentleman? For example, when you open the door for the lady or pull the chair for a lady in a kopitiam, these acts are called gentleman style. That was only 2 of the occasions that I had encountered. At that time, I failed to do all these things. Guess what? I was labeled as "Ungentleman". If a girl asked you "why never open the car door for me? So ungentleman." Then the guy should asked "Did your dad open the door for your mum?" It's so damn true. As for example 2, it's kind of funny as it was at a kopitiam and not a high class restuarant, it's kind of weird to have such a behaviour in a ermmm 'kopitiam'. Haha.
Extracted from my boss conversation, she heard from a speaker that in asian context, a person's behaviours are based on the lifestyle of their parents. Who do we learn from when we were young? Obviously, it's from our parents. For example, a Ang Moh kid's parents always kiss kiss gd night and so when the Ang Moh kid become a Ang Moh man, he will also kiss kiss gd night to his gf or wife. If he don't do that, he will think that something is missing. The whole thing I wanted to point out is that before you say someone ungentleman or something, please think twice as some of the behaviours are not part of our culture, be it family culture or country/regional culture. Btw, I'm not targeting at anyone. Hehe. Just share some interesting things that I had learnt.
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